Not a bad starter for 10 as a question guys. But trying to get an answer out of your girlfriend or your sister probably won’t do you any favours. Most likely you’ll be left with an angrier girl. At the same time you’ll be more confused. But a ‘don’t poke the bear’ mentality probably won’t help your relationship in the long run.
There are some questions boys just don’t feel comfortable asking. So the girls are going to give you the lowdown.
Guys are always describing girls as hormonal. So to understand the mood changes of a girl throughout the month you need to know a bit about hormones (Click here for the clinical explanation.) If you’re both young, the changes in her hormones may be as confusing to her as it is to you. You both just need a bit of patience to get used to what’s going on.
Oestrogen can’t take full blame for the mood swings that girls experience. Girls get tense before their ‘time of the month’ because of PMS (Pre Menstrual Syndrome). These may be three letters that strike fear into every boy’s heart, but it’s going to happen every month so just live with it!!
The menstrual cycle (the word menstrual comes from the Latin word ‘mensis’ meaning ‘month) is a process shrouded in mystery for boys worldwide. Yet 90% of women experience PMS. We become emotional, irritable and even irrational before our period. If it’s confusing and annoying for you just think what it’s like for us! In reality there isn’t much you can do (except offering chocolate) but here are some clues that we’re suffering at the hands of our hormones. And things you can do to make us feel better.
The effects of hormones on a girl’s body can be sudden. One minute we can be Snow White, an hour later one of Macbeth’s witches. This lack of control over how we’re feeling can be soooo frustrating. Let’s be honest, a girl’s period is when the lining of the womb (which had built up to house a fertilised egg) comes away mixed with blood and leaves the body. If you think that sounds unpleasant then trust us, it is. Perhaps now you can see why girls get cramps and muscle pain at this time.
Take it from us it’s a real pain and it certainly isn’t fun. The fact of the matter is boys will never know how girls are feeling at certain times in the month. But, now you know the facts, please try and be more understanding at the times we’re not acting quite normal.
Mostly it’s all about oestrogen – something most of us probably learn about at school. We know it’s the female hormone, but that’s probably about it. Physically it’s what makes girls look ‘womanly’.
The interesting thing from a guy’s point of view is that it’s the hormone behind the growth of breasts and hips. From a girl’s point of view it’s really important for keeping the female body healthy.
Changing your levels of oestrogen has an effect on the brain. What it does to the mood though is too complex for even the really smart people to know. So who knows, it might just be true when they say men are from Mars and women are from Venus after all.
If you find your girlfriend / best friend / sister clutching a hot water bottle to her tummy she has cramps which can occur before and during her period. Comments like ‘it can’t be that bad’ will not win you any friends. Joining her on the sofa with a duvet and a good Rom-Com and a chocolate brownie will literally score you serious brownie points.
Girls get bloated before their period. It can make us feel unattractive. Mentioning a girl’s weight won’t do you any favours at the best of times. If you choose this time of the month to bring it up, expect the worst. You have been warned.
Being brought to tears by an advert on TV is a sure sign that we’re ‘PMSing’. While were here, whatever you do
DO NOT TELL A GIRL SHE’S PMSing OK! Whether it’s true or not, it will most certainly irritate her. You don’t have to know why she’s crying to comfort her. To be honest she doesn’t really know why she’s crying. A hug probably won’t go amiss.